A mommy blogger who is known for having a sarcastic and witty outlook on motherhood and marriage got real when she posted an update about her marriage. People loved her for her unfiltered look on being a mom to a toddler, but now they were proud of her unadulterated realness on something that many married couples go through.
Rift In Paradise
A newly married couple hit rocky waters when the husband begins to stay out later and later after work. It wasn’t until the new wife found something in his laundry that changed everything.
Jonna and David
Jonna and David began dating in October 2012. On Thanksgiving in 2013, David proposed to the love of his life in front of his family and friends. That’s when the couple also announced that they were pregnant.
Becoming a Family
Jonna gave birth to their daughter, Delanie, in February 2014. They got married a year later in May. They were finally a family!
Jonna’s Life
Jonna grew up in a rural town deep in Indiana. On her blog, she calls herself, “a small town Indiana girl with a big mouth.” When she was a kid, she loved making videos with her friends and even wrote mini blog posts. There wasn’t much else to do in the farmland!
The Blunt Blonde
Jonna actually has a pretty successful blog nowadays! “I’m a woman of many trades, what can I say? I’m currently a stay-at-home slave. My boss is almost three feet tall, messier than s**t and really piles the work on my non-existent desk. So I’m pretty confident that I will not have any hair left by the time I reach my 30’s…â€
David
David, on the other hand, grew up in literal Amish country in an Amish family. Jonna thought her life was all farms, but David’s really was! Even at their wedding, David had to let her know that Amish men are not allowed to wear ties, so they had to wear bowties. That kind of stuff was a learning lesson for Jonna.
100% Amish
David grew up in a hardcore Swiss-German religious sect of the Amish. They completely reject modern technology. They grew up very differently, but Jonna knew that they could make it work.
What Jonna Thought
“Sure, we have different backgrounds but they say opposites attract and in our case, this couldn’t be truer. He’s calm, I’m a psycho. He knows how to drive a buggy, they let me drive a pony cart once and I almost crashed into a tree. He asks me how to get on Google, I get on the internet and run my mouth every day. I love my in-laws, I love my husband and I may not be Amish but I’ve had it in me.”
They Were a Strong Couple
Jonna knew that taking David out of the Amish world would have some growing pains, but they were honestly just the perfect couple. Jonna loved his Amish background and the fact that he was so wholesome because of it.
Mommy Blog
She was just being herself with this blog, but that’s really what took off! People loved her back story and her sense of humor. She was a pretty popular mommy blogger…
Renaissance Mom
Since she was a stay-at-home Mom, that gave her a lot of time to put into her blog to make it successful. That’s probably why her story got so popular, too…
David’s Job
David ended up working at an RV dealership. He works extremely long hours to make ends meet, and Jonna appreciates it tremendously. His long hours do make her feel lonely, which she talks about on her blog. Turns out, that’s pretty common among stay-at-home moms!
Airing Her Worries
“I’m married to a hard-working man and I would be lying if I said that it didn’t take a toll on me. Sometimes he will come home after a long day at work and I’ll be waiting for him to walk in the door, so I can yell ‘you promised me you would be home at five!’ As if he would rather be working than spending time with me and our daughter.â€
She’s In A Tough Spot
“I’m putting him in a lose-lose situation. He literally can’t win. If he doesn’t work late, we won’t get the new furniture set that I have to have. If he does work later, he comes home to a nagging wife who is desperate for his attention.” She continued, “I am so selfish in our marriage and I know that. But, every once in a while, I’ll have my little ‘A-ha’ moment that gives me a sense of understanding.”
One Night…
One night, Jonna was sitting on the floor with Delanie and playing. Jonna frequently kept David’s dinners in the fridge so he could eat it up once he got home, but she noticed that he was much later than usual…
Getting Upset
While they were playing, Jonna couldn’t help but think about where he could be. This wasn’t like him to stay out so late. She was starting to get angry…
He Was Still Out
With the baby in bed, Jonna decided to wait up for David. The longer she had to wait, the angrier she got. When the dryer went off, she was thankful for the distraction. She decided to put her energy into folding the laundry as she waited for her husband.
What Was Going On In Her Head
She wrote on her blog what was going through her mind. “Why does he not want to spend time with me? We’re newlyweds, aren’t we supposed to be in the honeymoon stage?”
Folding the Laundry
She sat in the living room and began separating the piles of laundry. She began folding and tried to get her mind off of her nerves. That’s when she noticed something about laundry…
His Clothes…
As she was folding, she noticed that her clothes looked much more vibrant, clean, and new. His noticeably had more wear and tear.
He Made Sacrifices
That’s when it hit her. He made a lot of sacrifices to give her and their daughter a comfortable life. Her clothes looked new because they were new. He worked so hard that he didn’t even have time to buy himself nice, new clothes…
Immediate Guilt
Once that realization really sunk in, she immediately felt guilty for feeling angry at him. She was angry for him working and providing for their family. She felt like a fool.
Coming to Terms
Jonna wrote, “I get spoiled with the fruits of his labor and he is okay with a pair of torn boxer briefs. I was acting as if he was out partying with his friends, but his laundry told a completely different story.”
He’s Too Good
She soon realized that he probably didn’t even want to work these late hours, but he wanted to keep their life style. She knew he was too good to be true…
David Was Tired
David was skipping means and sleeping less hours just so he could get more work in. All he wanted to do was provide for his family.
He Doesn’t Mind
She wrote in her blog, “His heart is full when he walks in [through] the door and our daughter runs for him excitedly yelling, ‘Dada!’ His dreams have come true of being able to be a man and provide for his family. He has everything he has ever wanted in life.”
She Wanted to Be Better
She decided to become a better wife. She wasn’t going to complain anymore or feel angry… It wasn’t good for either of them.
She’s Going To Be Happier
She wrote, “Sure, I miss him and want to spend time with him throughout the week, but I have realized he is offering me the most beautiful form of love there is… He works to give our family everything we need. He works so his wife and daughter don’t go without, even though there are times I’m sure he does.”
Note to Her Readers
She writes, “If you have a hard-working man in your life and you can’t comprehend how much he loves you… Do his laundry.”
Her Words Worked
A lot of her readers took her words to heart. They realized that these things go both ways…
The Real Blunt Blonde
Her blog has taken off since this moving post. She gained a lot of support from other parents who are in similar positions. Plus, she got even more fans due to her interesting story of marrying into an Amish family!
I’m Not Amish But My Husband Is
After she got a lot of new fans and followers, she decided to go more in-depth into the Amish culture and her own funny misconceptions about it. She writes about when David introduced her to his family, and how she was surprised she saw electricity in their house and how silly she felt!
Motherhood Hardships
Now, she has a platform where she can connect with other parents, especially now that her kid is growing up. She described her kid’s terrible two’s as a, “phase where your child is anything but cute, sweet and adorable. It’s like I’m in another dimension, or maybe even on drugs. What is happening? Did I just do drugs? Do I know any drug dealers? Should I do drugs?”
Using Humor
She keeps her readers entertained by using her sarcastic wit to keep them reading and laughing!
She Writes About the Good Days, Too
Currently, Delanie is almost five years old! She is well past her terrible two’s and Jonna is trying to deal with having a young kid.
Dream Family
Jonna is happy that she was able to shed some light on the hard work that parents do. She was also very blessed for her own reality check that probably helped save her marriage!